Ideal Relationships Start with Your Intentions by Wayne Dyer
Posted by Julie Miller, 02/11/2016
Ideal Relationships Start with Your Intentions
Wayne Dyer, shared by Reid Tracy in weekly newsletter
If you’re wondering why you are surrounded by all the wrong people or the people around you are bringing you down, you should look within yourself first. Before blaming the people in our lives for not letting us succeed or holding us back, we must look at ourselves and our thoughts. The right people are always around, you just need to attract them. If you want to be surrounded by confident, successful people, you must be confident and think successfully. The right people will come to you at the right time. Wayne often spoke of the power of intention. If your intention is to attract ideal people to help you move forward in life, then you will. You must believe in yourself first. Low self-esteem and ego-minded ideals won’t attract optimistic and strong-willed people. In the words of Wayne:
“You want to attract the people who are intended to be part of your life, and you want to have a happy, fulfilling, spiritual relationship. The universal all-creating field is already cooperating with your intention. These very people are obviously already here, otherwise you’d want something that hasn’t been created. Not only are the right people here, but you also share the same divine Source of all life with them, since everyone emanates from that Source. In some invisible way, you’re already connected spiritually to those perfect-for-you people. So why can’t you see them, touch them, or hold them, and why aren’t they there when you need them?
What you need in the way of the right people showing up will appear for you only when you’re ready and willing to receive them. They’ve always been there. They’re there right now. They’ll always be there. The questions you need to ask yourself are: Am I ready? Am I willing? and How much am I willing to have it? If your responses to these questions are a readiness and willingness to experience your desires, then you’ll begin seeing people not only as a body with a soul, but as a spiritual being clothed in a unique body. You’ll see the infinite souls that we all are: infinite, meaning always; and everywhere, meaning with you right now if that’s your spiritual desire.
Giving forth what you want to attract. Once you’ve formed a picture in your mind of the person or people that you intend to show up in your immediate life space, and you know how you want them to treat you and what they’ll be like, you must be what it is that you’re seeking. This is a universe of attraction and energy. You can’t have a desire to attract a mate who’s confident, generous, nonjudgmental, and gentle, and expect that desire to be manifested if you’re thinking and acting in nonconfident, selfish, judgmental, or arrogant ways–which is why most people don’t attract the right people at the right time.
Almost 30 years ago, I wanted to attract a publisher into my life for my book, Your Erroneous Zones. This publisher would have to be understanding, since I was an unknown writer at the time, and would have to be a risk taker, willing to let go of any doubts about me.
My literary agent arranged a meeting with an executive editor, whom I’ll refer to as George, at a large New York publishing house. As I sat down to talk to him, it was obvious to me that he was personally distraught. I asked him what was troubling him, and we proceeded to spend the next three to four hours talking about a devastating personal matter that had just transpired the night before. George’s wife had told him that she was going to seek a divorce, and he felt as though he’d been blindsided by this news. I let go of my own desires to talk about getting my book published and became what it was that I was seeking: an understanding, confident, risk-taking person. By being that very thing and detaching from my ego-dominated desires, I was able to help George out that afternoon, which I’ve never forgotten. I left George’s office that day without even discussing my book proposal. When I told my literary agent this story, he was convinced that I’d blown my one opportunity with a major publishing house by not making a strong pitch for my book. The following day, George called my agent, telling him, “I really don’t even know what Dyer’s book proposal entails, but I want that man as one of our authors.”
At the time, I didn’t realize what was happening. Now, with a quarter century of living in this world of spiritual inquiry, I see it quite clearly. The right people will show up precisely when you need them and when you’re able to match up. You must be that which you desire. When you are what you desire, you attract it by radiating it outward. You have this ability to match up with the power of intention and fulfill your intention to attract ideal people and divine relationships.
If you are what you seek, then you will attract the people you want and need in your life at this moment. Take on the traits of what you desire and your destiny may be fulfilled. You must believe in yourself in order for others to believe in you too.
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