6 Signs Your Partner Is Emotionally Abusive
By Higher Perspective, 02/15/2016
They excessively remind you of your failures.
One of your greatest assets in life is a person, be it a friend or a partner, who challenges you. They hold your feet to the fire and make sure that your ideals aren’t half baked, so to speak. But an emotionally abusive partner cites your failures not in an attempt to help you grow, but to bring you down and make you feel bad.
They belittle your dreams.
Again, it’s a great thing to have people in your lives who challenge you to improve and perhaps play devils advocate.
However, for your partner to actually belittle your dreams, suggest that they can’t be accomplished, and that you should give up is emotional abuse.
They blame you for their problems.
The worst quality of the emotional manipulator is that they can’t seem to let themselves be at fault or wrong about anything. They always find a way to turn it back on you and make their own failures your fault.
You held them back or were too independent. Baloney.
They make you feel bad for making your own choices.
You want to spend time with your family and friends but your partner can’t come, so they make you feel bad. They talk about how hurt they are or how they wish you’d consider their feelings or how lonely they’ll be.
They try to get you to do what they want, not what you want. It’s a type of emotional abuse.
They make subtle threats.
They may not threaten you with harm. They may threaten to not take a vacation with you or even leave you if you don’t do what they ask of you.
Don’t buy it. Be your own person. If they leave you for it, forget them. Don’t chase it, replace it.
They try to control your finances.
This is the ultimate no-no. Even in a marriage, it’s important to have control over your own finances.
You never know what may happen and you certainly don’t want to be left stranded.